How Do I Break up With My Sugar Baby?

It's Herb Rose with another question from the mailbag:

Q: So How Do I Break up With a Sugar Baby? - I haven't gotten my first one yet, and I just want to be prepared before I get into a relationship that may be hard to get out of.  These profile messages are talking about things like monthly arrangements, which seems like a lot of commitment without some kind of exit strategy. 

I haven't really had the best luck with "normal" relationships, which is why I'm trying out sugar dating in the first place.  Any advice would be appreciated.

John, Maryland, USA

A: It's easy, John.  Just Stop Paying Her.

Ok, I joke a little, but really, don't be afraid to start something because you don't know how it will stop. Just take it as it comes.

Remember that sugar dating is there to allow you to be honest and direct about what you want, what you're trying to avoid, and how much it's worth to you to get it. So, if you find that your sugar dating relationship isn't working out, you either end it abruptly but firmly, or simply do what you do in a traditional relationship: You talk it over and work things out.

I know, I know.  That sounds boring.  Talking and working things out also sounds like the sort of thing you were trying to avoid by getting into sugar dating in the first place. So what gives?

Well, like I said, you can simply end it abruptly but firmly.  As long as it's honest.  You've got to say, "Look, this isn't working out.  We got into this with no strings attached, and I'd like to keep it that way."  She'll respect it.  Sure, a sugar baby doesn't like to hear that her relationship is ending (and that the gravy train is pulling to a stop), but what she dislikes even more is what happens when you're not honest: Hurt feelings, unresolved questions, and bruised egos.  There's nothing so sad as the futility of trying to "make it work" when you gave her some bullshit problem as an excuse, and she tries to fix the bullshit problem in order to try and keep you.  In other words, she prefers honesty to the runaround, and directness to being strung along.

So grow a pair and tell her the real reason.  Sugar dating is about honesty, directness, and being true to yourself.  It's about being a man, and standing up for what you want, not hiding behind flimsy excuses and passive-aggressive games.  Sugar Dating puts YOU in control, so there's no reason to wimp out if you want to make a change. 

Sincerely,

Herb Rose